Feeling down? Here is a real life story of Asma Tariq’s determination. A
middle class girl with shattered dreams who literally built her own self
It was the time when Asma was in FSc, all packed up in the atmosphere of
extreme pressure. The pressure of grades, because all she intended was to
become a doctor. She did not know that there was something in life besides
medical and engineering. She attempted medical college entrance test but
This failure hit her hard. She thought there was nothing she could do in
life. Utmost depression was her companion. Conflicts with everyone were now
so normal. Parents seemed to be the enemies who caused all this as it was
all their choice to make her a doctor. They even insisted on repeating the
FSc which she didn’t want to. Then happened the most agonizing incident of
her life – Baba’s death. It made her lose any remnants of hope that she
had. Now the circumstances had changed altogether.
Pressure of being the eldest daughter, load of expectations, emotional
breakdown, all of these was occuring simultaneously.
In this time of despair, there was a continuous sense of “seeking” inside
her mind that made her go on. Wandering in books and sometimes on the
internet, looking for the solutions to becoming independent accompanying a
desire to earn for the family. Over the time this desire became more and
more disturbing and stimulating. She was now seeking her purpose with
determination. A new world inside mobile phone was waiting for her. There
was no internet at home so now all her pocket money started going into
She stopped going to cafés with friends to save money. The thirst inside
was more than outside.
She would listen to lots of lectures about financial independence and take
notes of the important things. She says that she still has those notes.
Now instead of crying and locking herself in the room when she was upset,
she was looking for a way to learn something new. This showed her
determination. During her graduation she wrote some books with others and
earned hard money and then wrote her own book from it.
She also achieved some more accomplishments that were once a dream. She
received an international award along with some national representations.
Recently she got Bull Award as a Gujrat Chapter Director From the Startup
Grind biggest international startup community and became first Pakistani
female who won the award.
She entered the university with the intention to learn even more. There she
had to meet people and tell everyone about herself, which really benefited
her. This is where she started working, making money and started teaching
Last year, She trained 1000 school and college children from all over
Pakistan with the help of the international platform with some university
The moral of the story is that there are many capable people around us.
What they need to do is to have a strong will and determination and rise
up. On our part, we need to help them get up.
Excerpt from the Book Aas
As I sat with my book Aas in my hand, I was thinking that there was a time
when I was so fond of reading, the reason was also that I could not speak;
so start writing lines. Just then writing became my catharsis, I started
writing diaries regularly. Now the diary was my companion of happiness and
sorrow; I had accumulated many diaries.
I used to jokingly say that when I die, you will bury them with me.
Sometimes I used to wish that someone would read me as I read and relate my
work with their life. Maybe the one above has heard and the hope has been
fulfilled; it was a moment’s decision that I I want to publish my book with
my first earnings.
There were some flaws left because of this haste, but perhaps there was a
fear that all these writings might really become part of the grave; well,
let’s talk about hope, if it is said that hope is not just a word or just a
title. Rather, it is the search for a frightened man.